Things To Know About Me Intimately If You Want To Date Me
I am caught between a rock and hard place. I don't know if marriage is for me. Men view me as "Unique or Different", "Good Girl", "Defensive" (I ask a lot of questions) and "Spiritual". I have learned
that I am very valuable in a non arrogant way, but I compromised to be in a relationship. Now, I am not sure it is necessary for me to even be with anyone, because my God has taken such good care of me. He uses people to help fill any lack that I may have that I can't fulfil on my own. l am more secure with not having the need to compromise as I have to when I am in a relationship! I am not sure if this is good or bad. If I meet the right one---Here are my must haves in a man:
Character is Very Very Important to Me
I have come to realize that people can hurt other people "sometimes" unintentionally. I also know and understand all days wont' be rainbows and wine! However, everyday should not be an ego filled battle with your significant other.
Vulnerability
He must have the ability to know when it is okay to be vulnerable. Growing and some healthy compromising takes a very secure person that is willing to grow for themselves and others around them.
Understand Spiritual Truths
If I am going to be with someone he has to bring or is willing to learn spiritual things. I prefer this beautiful and wonderful trait over material things. Yes! it would be great to have a choice to go to a job-meaning he can handle the necessities, to keep us both. However, character and openness to learn spiritual truth is more important to me. I know we would be fine materialistically. Duh, he would have me by his side.
Competes Against Himself-Not Others
This takes a very secure man not to care about keeping up with the Jones or care about the opinions of others. I want a man that is balanced with his security and willing to work on any insecurities.
Understands
the position of a Wife
At this time, I am not sure if I want to be married, but its only because I know I would be great with God alone. He has taken great care of me, validates me, plus gives me "power" to succeed according to his standards, protects me, and takes care of my enemies! Okay.... I think I can only get sex and material things from a man. These are good things. I would want to be the only woman on his safe and HEALTHY pedestal, meaning no one has influence over him but God and his wife (me) (in that order).